Some Advice for Spouse Seeker

Whom to marry is a major decision is life. Since it is said that divorce involves so much of stress for both husband and wife and also for the children, it is important to take thoughtful decision before getting into a marital relationship. In a society like that of India marriage between two individuals bring together two families. But most importantly he becomes part of her family; and she his family. Marriage is not a  relationship just between the boy and the girl; it goes beyond that. 

The approach that people use to find their life partner differs from region to region and people to people. So what I share here may not be relevant to every individual. But considering that we are show respect to our parent there may be certain thing that can be beneficial to most people. In certain place Matrimonial column in the newspaper provides people  the opportunity to connect with one another. In other places it's face to face interaction that results in a closer relationship. In the North East India, it will be fair to say that no one really takes the help of Matrimonial column. 

If you have seen a nice girl, before you approach her, think first whether your parent will approve or not. If your parent will not approve, drop the idea. Knowing that your parent will not approve and therefore you will be able to marry her, if you deceive her into a relationship, you are being a bad guy. Since we are to respect our parent, it is important to take their opinion into consideration. Generally parent will agree, but it's possible that there could be certain things we have not thought about in the first place, and because of that same reason they now oppose the marriage. If you have approached the girl and arrived at an "agreement" and later your parents strongly disapprove of it when you tell  them of your plan to marry this girl, you have got yourself into a big problem. You can't just discard the girl because you would have got emotionally entangled with her; moreover, it's also not fair to treat someone like a pair of dress -- discarding it whenever it does not fit into your scheme of things. At the same time you can't also just ignore your parents; after all they are the one who give you birth and children are to show respect to their parents. So in order to avoid such headache it's best to take one's parent's view before getting into a relationship.